Four Simple Steps to Discovering Your Purpose in Life

P questionWhy am I here? I get this question a lot. The simple answer is: because you have a purpose that your Soul wants to fulfill and has created the opportunity to do so through the circumstances of this incarnation.

Then what quickly follows is: well, then I want to know what my purpose is. How can I discover what my purpose is? When people ask me this question, they aren’t talking about their job, they want to know the reason they’re here on the planet in the first place.  In other words, why do they exist?

I tell people all the time that if they have the awareness to frame the question, then they already know the answer. It may just be buried deep inside them somewhere is all. So how can you discover your purpose in life? What follows is a simple but effective technique you can try. Don’t let the simplicity fool you.  It will work more quickly if you’re open to the process and expect it to work.  If you have any doubts or think it’s a waste of your time, it will just take a little longer.

Here are those four easy steps:

1. Get yourself some blank sheets of paper and something to write with. (I suppose you could also use a word processing program, but I’m old school at heart, especially when it comes to an exercise like this.)

2. Across the top of the page write the following: “What is my true purpose in life?”

3. Now don’t think about it too much, just write whatever pops into your head, whether it’s a simple word or a phrase. It doesn’t have to be a complete sentence, even.

4. Repeat Step 3 until you write something that makes you cry. That is your purpose in life.

That’s it. Now begin.

As you start this excavation process, understand it may take a while to clear your mind of your preconceived notions about what you think your purpose in life is; or what you think other people think your purpose in life is.  Just remain mindful of your responses to the phrases or words you write.  Remember what I said earlier.  You already know the answer, you just don’t know you know it.

Be patient with yourself.   It might take some time just to clear the clutter, but eventually you will strike gold.

If you persist, after 100 or 200 or perhaps even 500 answers, you will write something that causes an emotional response to well up from inside you.  That response is how you know you’re headed for the truth, that you’re close to answering the penultimate question of why you are here.

As you move through this process, some of your answers will be very similar.  You may even find yourself repeating some of your prior responses.  List whatever pops into your head.  Just keep writing.

At some point during this process, you may just want to quit.  You may feel the urge to get up, or you may find you start thinking about an excuse to go do something else.  That’s just part of this exercise too.  Resist the temptation to quit before you reach your goal.  Just keep writing.  Those other feelings will pass.

As you write, you may respond to some phrases which seem to give you a little surges of emotion, but they don’t quite make you cry.  Mark these in some way as you go along, so you can come back to them later.  Each one of these responses likely represents part of your purpose, but not the whole thing. It’s fine to be optimistic at this point, however, because this means you’re getting warm. So stick with it.

Stay with this stream of consciousness exercise until you are complete. You may find you need to do it for a couple of sessions, and that is ok. You will know when you have your answer because you will be able to feel the truth of it. It will resonate with you on a deep level. The answer can come as quickly as within an hour, but usually it can take longer.

Now comes the hard part. Once you have determined what your purpose in life is, you must ascertain how you will fulfill that purpose, and commit to staying focused on achieving that purpose.

The purpose of to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

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